My life hasn't followed one straight line.
But it hasn't been random either.
I haven't always known exactly where every decision would lead. What I often knew was what mattered to me, and I learned to start from there.
A lot of the clarity I have today came after I started moving—not before.
That's a big part of where Get Unstuck as You Go comes from.
I KNEW WHAT MATTERED BEFORE I KNEW THE PLAN
I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do. I knew how I wanted to live.
Even as a teenager, I had a problem-solving mind.
If someone brought me a problem, my mind naturally went to:
What can we do about it?
What are the options?
What are we missing?
I didn’t know to call that strategy at the time. It was simply how I thought.
I was also reading about investing, real estate, and business. I wanted to see more of the world, experience more of life, and have the freedom to decide what my own life would look like.
By 19, one thing had become very clear to me:
“I wanted control over my time.”
That wasn’t about avoiding work.
What I didn’t want was to build a life where I had very little say over how my time was used.
I saved money first.
I became a first-time homeowner at 19.
I got into real estate.
And I started leaning into something I already knew I was good at: helping people think through problems and find solutions.
I began helping people strategize around their businesses—how to reach the customers they were trying to serve, what wasn’t working, how something could work more efficiently, what needed to be researched, and what options they might not have considered.
I didn’t always know every technical answer.
But I knew how to ask questions, learn what I needed to learn, research what I didn’t know, and look for a way forward.
Over time, that work became a business for me.
And at 19, I left my last regular nine-to-five job.
I didn’t know everything that would happen after that.
But I knew enough about what mattered to me to start building toward it.
A traditional career can be exactly the right choice for someone who wants one.
You don’t have to make the choices I made.
The point is to make your own choices about how you want to live.
WHY I'M DOING THIS NOW
Long before I called anything Get Unstuck as You Go, I was already helping people figure out what they could do next.
That problem-solving instinct I had as a teenager never really went anywhere.
I've continued helping people think through decisions, look at situations differently, consider possibilities, work through problems, and find a way forward.
What I hadn't done was organize it.
And eventually I realized I needed to take some of my own advice.
Stop treating something that's already part of who I am like a collection of disconnected conversations, teachings, and ideas.
Build a home for it.
Give it structure.
Let it grow.
That's what I'm doing now.
I'm not creating a new version of myself.
I'm finally organizing something I've already been doing.
WHAT I WANT THIS WORK TO BE
I'm not here to tell you what your life should look like.
I'm not here to hand you my choices and tell you to make the same ones.
My version of freedom worked for me because it was built around what mattered to me.
What I want to help you do is look honestly at where you are, think through what's in front of you, get clearer about what matters to you, and trust yourself enough to make a move when you know enough to make one.
Then pay attention.
Learn.
Adjust when you need to.
And keep going.
Because the goal isn't to live my life.
It's to live yours.
A FEW THINGS I BELIEVE
A few things I believe.
Waiting for complete certainty can keep you in the same place for years.
Changing direction isn't automatically failure.
New information is allowed to change your mind.
Your life belongs to you.
Other people can have opinions. You still have to decide what you're willing to live with.
ONE THING KEPT LEADING TO ANOTHER
Having more control over my time also gave me room to explore different parts of myself.
I've written books and poetry.
I've made music.
I've built businesses.
I've worked in entertainment.
And I've pursued acting.
Acting challenged me in a different way. It helped me become more confident, more comfortable with rejection, and more willing to express myself.
It didn't need to become the center of my life to have value.
That's something I've learned from a lot of the things I've pursued.
Some became bigger parts of my life than I expected.
Others gave me something I needed, taught me something, or opened a door I couldn't see beforehand.
Those chapters weren't random.
I had the freedom to explore them because I had intentionally built room in my life to do it.
And that's one reason I don't treat a change in direction as failure.
Sometimes something you thought was the destination becomes the thing that points you somewhere else.
A FEW THINGS I'VE DONE ALONG THE WAY
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FREEDOM, FOR ME, HAS ALWAYS MEANT TIME
For me, freedom has never meant doing nothing.
It has meant having more say over:
How I spend my time.
Who I spend it with.
What I build.
What I say yes to.
What I say no to.
That isn't for everyone.
But it matters to me.
And I think it's worth being intentional about that.
MOVING DIDN’T MEAN EVERYTHING WORKED PERFECTLY
Leaving a traditional job didn't mean everything instantly worked.
There were seasons where I was sleeping on an air mattress.
There were mistakes.
There were partnerships that didn't work.
There were decisions I learned from the hard way.
I've made my share of them.
At the same time, I was still building businesses, learning, paying attention, and continuing to move forward.
That part of the story matters to me.
Because I'm not interested in pretending the path was perfect.
I'm interested in being honest about what it actually looked like:
Progress can be real and messy at the same time.
You can be grateful and still want something different.
You can be doing fine on paper and still know you're not on the right path.
You can change direction without having every step mapped out.
You can experience setbacks without letting them define you.
I've also learned that real life is not just business.
It's your health.
Your relationships.
Your time.
Your energy.
Your ability to actually enjoy the life you're building.
If your success costs you everything that makes life worth living, it's worth asking whether it's success at all.
Over the years, I've worked in and around business, real estate, investing, writing, music, and entertainment.
Each one taught me something different.
Each one also reinforced the same lesson:
Everything connects.
How you think affects how you decide.
How you decide affects how you act.
How you act shapes what your life becomes.
And sometimes the most important move is simply getting unstuck enough to take the next one.
I KNEW WHAT MATTERED BEFORE I KNEW THE PLAN
I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do. I knew how I wanted to live.
Even as a teenager, I had a problem-solving mind.
If someone brought me a problem, my mind naturally went to:
What can we do about it?
What are the options?
What are we missing?
I didn't know to call that strategy at the time. It was simply how I thought.
I was also reading about investing, real estate, and business. I wanted to see more of the world, experience more of life, and have the freedom to decide what my own life would look like.
By 19, one thing had become very clear to me:
I wanted control over my time.
That wasn't about avoiding work.
What I didn't want was to build a life where I had very little say over how my time was used.
I saved money first.
I became a first-time homeowner at 19.
I got into real estate.
And I started leaning into something I already knew I was good at: helping people think through problems and find solutions.
I began helping people strategize around their businesses—how to reach the customers they were trying to serve, what wasn't working, how something could work more efficiently, what needed to be researched, and what options they might not have considered.
I didn't always know every technical answer.
But I knew how to ask questions, learn what I needed to learn, research what I didn't know, and look for a way forward.
Over time, that work became a business for me.
And at 19, I left my last regular nine-to-five job.
I didn't know everything that would happen after that.
But I knew enough about what mattered to me to start building toward it.
A traditional career can be exactly the right choice for someone who wants one.
You don't have to make the choices I made.
The point is to make your own choices about how you want to live.
NEXT STEP
You don't have to figure out everything today.
Start with what's in front of you.
If you'd like some help sorting through what matters and figuring out what you can do next, I've created a free guide to help you get started.